When did you choose to be Gay?

When did you choose to be gay?
 


When I found out that there was a choice, at first, I was in shock... "whaaat, there's another option????" So first I looked at my friends, saw how easy stuff was for them. Then, I looked at the gay people getting beat up around me and thought "well damn, that's what I want for myself!" ... so I chose gay.

Because I chose to be gay, I spent the first 19 years of my life living in fear.
Because I chose to be gay, my parents hated me after I told them about my choice.
If only I had chosen to take the easy social path, like all you people who chose to be straight.

I've met other people who also chose to be gay, we talk about the moment when we realized there was a choice. Sometimes we talk about when we learned about the gay lifestyle and how it limits our legal capabilities; some of us thought that hospital visitation rights were just silly and petty. Who would want family members who love you, choose gay!!!

But to answer your question: When did I choose to become gay??
It was the same time I realized that gay was an option, because if gay is an option, straight is one too. So while all my other friends were choosing to remain straight, I knew I was a bit different.

I knew I was a bit different very early on: I liked Barbies, I liked theater, I liked looking at the guys in underwear ads. And since I somehow liked all this stuff before I realized there was a choice, it seemed fitting....

.... but wait a minute......

if I liked Barbies and stuff before discovering about the possibility of a choice, then maybe I was gay before the concept of a choice was even considered.....

but if that's true.... that would mean....

that being gay is not a damn choice. It's inherent, kiddo.... just like skin color, eye color, baldness or being straight.

Sorry

My apologies for allowing this blog itself to come to a screeching halt. The Facebook page receives significantly more attention than here. I hope that this didn't cause any confusion for anyone. Delaware GLU.

Coming Out gets easier every day....

Consider this essay from about a year ago if you're also considering coming out... for National Coming Out Month Love, Delaware GLU

Behold.... the new Calendar!!!

If you hadn't noticed above, there is a brand new calendar. Flip through, see what's pending!!! Also, please take a moment to chuckle at the fact that this calendar gives the option to view the Agenda. There you go, Delaware... Your Gay Agenda!!!

Just a few Quotes

Some quotes to get you through the day or week: ................ It will be a great thing for the human soul whin it finally stops worshipping backwards. Charlotte P. Gilman. ................ There is no sin on this earth that gives a man such a foretaste of Hell in this life as anger or impatience. St Catherine of Siena ................ Joy is a net of love by which you can catch souls. Mother Theresa ................ A bit of fragrance always clings to the hand that gives you roses. Chinese proverb ................ When shall we live if not now? M.F.K. Fischer ................ The fear of change is the fear of life itself. Anonymous

On Forgiveness:

“Forgiveness is the most powerful thing that you can do for your physiology and your spirituality, and it remains one of the least attractive things to us, largely because our egos rule so unequivocally. To forgive is somehow associated with saying that it is all right, that we accept the evil deed. But this is not forgiveness. Forgiveness means that you fill yourself with love and you radiate that love outward and refuse to hang onto the venom or hatred that was engendered by the behaviors that caused the wounds.” Wayne Dyer

Gays and God

GAYS AND GOD spirituality group begins this summer, hosted by First and Central Presbyterian. Larry Peterson and Doug Gerdts are the facilitators. It is our intention that the group will include anyone from any church or faith system that wishes to explore what it means to be gay and have a relationship with God. We will meet for a planning meeting at First and Central Presbyterian (across from the Hotel DuPont in Wilmington), 7 p.m. on 13 June. At this meeting we will decide our future meeting times, locations, and dates, decide how often we wish to meet, and select our initial series of topics. In our initial couple of meetings, we intend to explore the various scriptures used both to denounce or support homosexuality. Then, we may view one or more documentaries on Christians and Homosexuality. Then, we think we would like to discuss topics within various books that explore what is unique about being gay and spiritual as well as share our own journeys of faith and frustrations. We do have a grant to provide books for participants who are unable to purchase books if we do decide to discuss any particular book as a whole. We do welcome Jewish and Christian folk as well as anyone else who wishes to share our journey. First and Central Presbyterian 1101 N. Market Street on Rodney Square in Wilmington, DE 19801 Phone: (302) 654-5371 ext. 106 ¨ gerdts@fandc.org